What the hell am I talking about?
Everyone wants to be liked. ‘Sure, I’ll help you’, ‘No problem’, ‘I’ll be there’. Have you used these lines even when you didn’t really feel like it? Why didn’t you just say ‘No’? I know why. You thought people are as considerate as you, right? Were you angry when they weren’t? I bet you were. Being too nice isn’t good for your health (or your wealth, for that matter).
It’s great that you have choices today, but it’s getting harder and harder to say ‘No’ to the choices you don’t want to make. And then? You are overwhelmed and inundated. Why are you doing this to yourself? (Hint: You’re a volunteer, not a victim!)
Some people are great at being assertive at work, but always feel short changed in relationships. It’s because they don’t know how to say ‘No’ without damaging valuable relationships.
Why should you say No?
- Life’s less stressful
- You can focus better
- You’re more productive
- You feel happier
- You are in control of your time, and eventually your life
- You feel peaceful and know that you are more in control of things!
Ok, so what should I do next?